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Some
of us, particularly women*, set
ourselves up to be martyrs.
We
are to
blame.
It
is our
fault.
We
just
can't seem to do anything right,
so we
don't .
We
create
mess after mess, crisis after
crisis.
This
allows others to
use us as doormats.
Smart move!
As
long as we are to
blame,
we cannot be held responsible or
accountable for what we
do not accomplish.
We
are too busy fixing the mess,
figuring out what to do, or if
we should do anything at all.
As
long as we have something or
someone to fix, we cannot fix
ourselves.
We
will
never fix the fear of our power.
We
will never fix the fear of our
beauty.
We
cannot fix our pain or confusion
or desperate feelings of
isolation.
We
don't have to face our fears or
try to fix them;
after all, it's
our fault
we are like this.
And
as long as
we are to blame,
we will
never have to face the thought
that others must share in
responsibility of getting things
done.
--
Iyanla Vanzant (*paraphrased) |
