It is hard for our children to tell us what they really feel.  they don't want to hurt us.  They don't want to be disrespectful.  They may not believe what they think and feel is valuable.  As parents, it is sometimes hard for us to let them be who they really are -- people, with thoughts, feelings and reams.  We want to protect them.  We want to give them the best.  We must consider whether the things we want for them are the things they want for themselves.  What we fear for them they may not fear for themselves.  Our children have the right to choose to search, explore and decide, and they have the stamina it takes to fall on their faces and get up again.

  --  Iyanla Vanzant