We all need the time, space and opportunity to vent our anger, frustration or dissatisfaction with the world.  Unfortunately, those closest to us bear the brunt of our emotions when we do not release them.  If loved ones take their frustration out on us, we must try not to take it personally; and never, never tell them they don't really feel that way.  We must learn to honor others' feelings and support them in expressing how they feel.  If they say things to us that are painful or angry, we must separate what is truth and what is unreal.  Parents must find a way to express their feelings without taking it out on the children.  If we are tired, we should say so.  If we are angry, we should take a walk before we go home.  If we allow ourselves to say what we really feel, when we feel it, and try listening and not responding, we would probably have a lot less to fight about.  When we express what we feel the moment we feel it, it won't get mixed in with everything else.

 --  Iyanla Vanzant  (*paraphrased)