Women* have been led to believe that they must be everything to everyone.  As a result, we do not know how to ask for support when we need or want it.  We become angry with others when they are not there for us, but we must realize people cannot, will not and do not know how to help if we do not know how to ask.  Take sixty seconds for yourself and ask yourself what you need.  If it is assistance with a project, a shoulder to cry on, a special something you need or want for yourself, let other people support you.  We make judgments about what people can or will do and we move on our assumptions.  We never really know what a person is willing to do or capable of doing until we ask.  Nothing is too big or too small to ask for if we need it.   When we don't ask for what we need, the need keeps getting bigger.

 --  Iyanla Vanzant  (*paraphrased)