You simply cannot pay anyone back for something they did to you.  Look for the lesson and move on.  If one man treats you badly,  rejects you, abandons you, abuses or disrespects you, you cannot hold all men accountable.  Look for the lesson and move on.  If your ex-wife took your money, lied to you, neglected your children and your home, it does not mean no woman can be trusted.  Look for the lesson and move on.  If some people are racist; some others are thieves*; some intellectual people condescending, some uneducated people ignorant; it does not give you the right or the authority to treat all people who look the same or act the same any way you choose, based on your past experiences.  Ask yourself, What can I learn from this situation?  What can I do this time that I did not do before?  If there is nothing, simply move on.

 --  Iyanla Vanzant  (*paraphrased)