Everybody needs a little time and space where they can go to be alone.  What this is called in a relationship is "the danger zone."  We all need those few little things that we have for ourselves.  It could be a thing, place, an activity or something we cannot share.  What this can look like in a relationship is "what is mine is theirs."  Everyone has that special thing that they just love to do.  What this feels like in a relationship is "I'm going out without you."  If you want your relationship to grow and flourish and your loved one to remain living and kind, give them the time, space and opportunity to go and make contact with their own minds.

 --  Iyanla Vanzant