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Whenever we have a negative encounter,
we wonder, "How could they do this to
me?" The reason is because you let
them. Basic human nature makes us
see people and situations the way we
want them to be, not the way they are.
We allow others to take advantage,
manipulate, and in some cases, abuse us,
because we don't want to "believe" what
our senses are telling us is true.
We listen to the same old line, accept
the same dead promises, follow them down
the same road, in the hopes they have
"changed." We listen to what they
say and hear something else. We
see what they do and turn our face.
When the bottom falls out, we quickly
place the blame for the pain on the
other person. We shift our anger
to them rather than accept our
responsibility for the role we played.
There are three keys to successful
relationships: Never make anyone
else responsible for your
happiness; trust what your inner self
feels, sees and says; and pay close
attention to the warning signs.
-- Iyanla Vanzant |
