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We are the products of our past, the
environment of our childhood.
For those of us who had painful
childhoods, we are determined to get
away from our memories. We
cannot. Our past is a part of
our today. We carry it in our
hearts. We model what we saw,
heard and experienced as children.
It is a called a pattern. We
do what was done to us. We
behave the way we saw others behave.
Unwittingly, with a great deal of
denial, we repeat the physical,
emotional and mental patterns set by
our families. The only way to
stop the cycle, to break the
pattern, is to go back and deal with
the pain. We must relive the
memories before we can erase them.
We must confront the people in our
minds and say now what we could not
say then. We must explore the
feelings, unpack the guilt and free
ourselves from the baggage we picked
up at home.
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Iyanla Vanzant |
