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We
often have such unrealistic
expectations of our mates that
it is as if we do not want them
to measure up.
We
want them to be like, act like,
behave like some idealistic
model we have cooked up in our
minds. The
problem is that we never reveal
to them what the model is.
We
hold them accountable and
responsible to satisfy our
desires, but we forget to
tell them what our desires are.
We
must remember that our mates are
people.
They
are not mind readers.
We
are asking for disappointment
when we do not share with them
our expectations.
We
complain to friends, compare
them to family members; why not
talk to the one person who could
probably help set things right?
We
should talk to our mates as if
they are our friends.
Reveal
to them those parts of us that
we have hidden from the world.
And
if in our heart of hearts we
cannot do this, we need to ask
ourselves, "Why am I with this
person?"
--
Iyanla Vanzant |
