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How do
you know when you are really in
love?
First
of all, you would not have to ask
the question.
Love is
knowing,
it is not a
condition or state of mind.
When you are loving, you are not
doubting, judging or fearing; you
are in a state of acceptance.
You
accept yourself first, for who and
what you are, and then the person
you love, without question.
You do not
want to fix him, change him, control
him or help him.
You want
for the person you love exactly what
she wants for herself. When
you are in love, you feel vulnerable
and know that it is okay.
You do not
hide your feelings, change them to
fix what you think the other person
wants, and you do not question what
you feel.
When you
are in love, you give, expecting
nothing in return, not even love.
Love
is an inner process between you and
yourself that you want to share with
someone, everyone.
Love is
free.
If your quest
is to own, control, hold on to,
protect, or take care of someone,
they cannot be free and you are not
in love.
Love is never wrong, seldom right.
It just is.
- Iyanla Vanzant |
