Mothers and daughters have many hurdles to overcome.  There's the mother's view, the daughter's view.  There's the mother's opinion, the daughter's opinion.  There's the mother's fear that the daughter will not succeed.  There's the daughter's fear that she will not be supported in what she wants.  There's the mother's incessant nagging to do things the "right way"; there's the daughter's view that the mother's way will not work.  There are mothers who have not grown up.  There are daughters who have grown up too fast.  Then come the grandchildren, a chance for the mother to do it again, better this time.  Now there is a way for the daughter to prove that the mother's way does not work.  The mother sees herself in the daughter -- there is pride and celebration.  The daughter does not want to be anything like the mother -- there is disappointment and embarrassment.  Mothers and daughters reflect each other, they repel each other, yet in spite of it all they love each other.  Sometimes they should tell each other.

  --  Iyanla Vanzant